Six Tips for Single Mums Seeking Mr Right

In whatever circumstances you're in and however you came to be a single mum, after a certain period of time you'll likely start looking for romance once again! Sooner or later you might think about re-entering the dating scene. But you might feel that you are a little "rusty" for dating and of course, you are not exactly a single entity, either! You may believe that you need coaching for women to help you plan how to attract "Mr Right" in your situation!

To start with, give yourself a good talking to! It's essential that you tell yourself it's fair and reasonable to seek the attention of another man again. Society is full of preconceived notions and you may encounter resistance from certain "friends," acquaintances or fellow workers advising you, subtly or directly not to do so. Tip number one - make sure that you take the time to give yourself permission!

If you're getting ready to enter the dating game once again, prepare yourself for the reactions of your children. It's crucial that you anticipate their questions - and along with them, possibly a fair amount of hostility. After all, somebody else could be vying for your time as well from now on. Have an honest and open conversation with the children and don't be tempted to tell half-truths or even open lies. Explain that mummy needs to be with her new friends, just as they do with theirs. A small amount of time spent in in this kind of preparation will pay substantial dividends in the coming months. Tip number two - be open with the kids!

Don't obsess about finding a man. Understand that you're currently getting along well in your role as a single mum and you don't want to jeopardise that under any circumstances. After all, you are far more likely to attract the right man if you don't come over as needy and desperate. Therefore, you should not put too much emphasis on your man-seeking activities to the point of obsession. It's OK to look and make an effort to "see and be seen" in appropriate social circumstances, but keep it in check and remember to enjoy the process rather than making it into a mission. Tip number three - everything in moderation!

You are quite rightly proud of your kids, as they are of you. It takes a gentle introduction however when it comes to your new man interests. Never be apologetic about your family. On the contrary, especially as you should have a good idea how he is likely to react to the idea of children. You would scarcely want to go further than the first encounter if you thought it would be negative. While a gentle introduction is called for, don't think that you have to roll the kids out every time that you meet. There's a time and place for integration, gently does it best. Tip number four - integrate gently!

It's perfectly normal and understandable to think about how the potential "he" might make a good father figure and to wonder whether your new man may be the answer. Don't be tempted to put too much pressure on the situation by leaning on him. Making him an automatic father figure won't work and you shouldn't impose on him to do pseudo-parenting duties right away. It's not okay to ask him to pick up the kids from school every day. Tip number five - don't allocate roles!

It can be difficult sometimes, but always keep your head on straight when you're in the early days of dating. If you fall head over heels, you will probably want to spend time with him, but you must be able to balance this with your other commitments. The children are a priority until such time as your relationship becomes more grounded and looks like it's set for the long-term. Tip number six - keep your head on straight!

Being a single mum is difficult, especially if you're trying to balance a demanding career as well. Remember that online life coaching is designed to be a helping hand in time of need for those who seem to have little time to devote to anything and are seeking answers to difficult questions.

Amanda Alexander is the CEO of Coaching Mums. She is a widely renowned ICF accredited coach, who for more than six years, has been providing her services to thousands of working mums from across the Globe in an effort to bring balance back into their lives, help them lose their guilt, show them how to find the time to reinvent their passions, and most of all, to have fun every day! For truly inspiring articles and cutting edge professional coaching tips, sign up to receive our absolutely brilliant free newsletter "Inspire," right now!